Do you have the time and energy to be involved in a 24/7 dynamic?
Do you have the time and energy to be involved in a 24/7 dynamic? If you aren’t currently involved in a “dynamic”, how do you see it being integrated into your life? If you are currently involved in a...
View ArticleHave you ever become so discouraged that you gave up on kink for a time?
Have you ever become so discouraged that you gave up on kink for a time? What caused this despair? How did it work, returning to vanilla? What caused you to return to kink?
View ArticleTo design the future effectively, you must first let go of your past.
“To design the future effectively, you must first let go of your past.” – Charles J. Givens
View ArticleAre you a quiet obedient submissive or is there an element of playful...
Are you a quiet obedient submissive or is there an element of playful brattiness in your dynamic? How does your owner encourage or enhance who you are? –from Submissive Safe Haven
View ArticleWhat are some small things that your Dominant does that make you feel special?
What are some small things that your Dominant does that make you feel special? – modified from a prompt on Submissive Safe Haven
View ArticleDoes being in love with your dominant…
Does being in love with your Dominant change the dynamic?
View ArticleHow do you vet a Dominant?
How do you vet a Dominant? What’s your process of checking them out before you meet or play with them? – from Submissive Safe Haven
View ArticleWhat purpose do contracts serve? Would…
What purpose do contracts serve? Would you or do you have a contract in place? What are pros and cons of having a written contract? -from Submissive Safe Haven
View ArticleIf you became ill or were injured at a BDSM…
If you became ill or were injured at a BDSM play space or event- What would you do? What could the others around you do if you aren’t able to? Most people only know each other by a scene name which...
View Article“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence…
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” - Aristotle
View ArticleIs it wrong to believe without proof?
Is it wrong to believe in something or someone without proof?
View ArticleDo birthday spankings happen in your relationship?
Do birthday spankings happen in your relationship? What are they like? Do you have any special details for the birthday spanking that don’t happen any other time of year?
View ArticleDistance means nothing when someone means everything.
“Distance means nothing when someone means everything.” — Unknown
View Article“I’ll get started tomorrow..”
“I’ll get started tomorrow..” What behavior or activity do you keep pushing off until tomorrow? What reasons do you use to delay the change. What if you were ordered-directed by your dominant to make...
View Article“Go where you are celebrated – not tolerated…
“Go where you are celebrated – not tolerated. If they can’t see the real value of you, it’s time for a new start.” – Unknown
View ArticleDoes your Dominant give you a list/rota to do things around
Does your Dominant give you a list/rota to do things around the house; for example dusting, washing up, hoovering, etc? If so does it help you or do you like to do it without having to be reminded?
View ArticleI do not agree with what you have to say…
“I do not agree with what you have to say, but I will defend to the death, your right to say it.” Voltaire
View ArticleHow does a bottom know what items are safe to be used for scenes/play?
How does a bottom know what items are safe to be used for scenes/play? Have you ever looked through a tops bag and thought something was unsafe to be used as a toy? There are some really strange things...
View ArticleIn Three Parts
Part 1: i am… In the style of an affirmation or poem list your roles, strengths, and weaknesses. Part 2: i believe… Following your exploration of who you are, what are your beliefs, faith, internal...
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